When a couple divorces in California, the effect goes beyond their immediate family. It impacts relationships both spouses cultivated over the years with extended families, mutual friends and in-laws. A divorce can complicate these relationships and sometimes end them. However, it is important, especially if children are involved, is to maintain family relationships in the aftermath of the divorce.
Communicating with in-laws
In some divorces, the spouses want little to do with their former in-laws. However, when children are involved, this is not always the case. In-laws might take sides during the divorce, which can make relationships contentious or awkward. A divorce can affect in-laws because they may be accustomed to seeing their children’s spouses at family gatherings, and now they are not there. It takes effort, but it is possible to put animosity and differences aside. This can show children the importance of maintaining strong, healthy family relationships.
Communicating with grandparents
According to California Family Code §1300-3105, grandparents can petition for visitation time with their children under certain conditions. If the children are accustomed to spending time with both sets of grandparents, it’s beneficial for all involved to set up regular visitation time to see the grandparents. If an amicable arrangement can be made, this could be preferable to going through the legal process of the grandparents trying to get visitation.
Communicating with the ex-spouse
Figuring out how to communicate with your ex-spouse becomes one of the most complex relationships to navigate. Several factors related to divorce influence this relationship’s dynamics. Extreme animosity or an abusive relationship can make maintaining a friendship with your ex impossible and could lead to further bad behavior.
Even if the breakup is amicable, transitioning from a romantic relationship to a friendship doesn’t always succeed. However, if you have children with your ex, you must establish a relationship for the child’s benefit. This involves discussing parenting time, school events and medical issues.
Prioritize your children
Divorcing couples often become engrossed in their own interests and lose sight of their children’s best interests. However, when parents prioritize their children, they find it easier to set aside personal differences and maintain relationships that matter to everyone involved.