All married couples have disagreements and issues to overcome. Nonetheless, for some couples, reconciliation isn’t an option.
Divorce is rarely a decision that parents take lightly, but it is often the best option for the family. Children, however, don’t always see it this way. In fact, children can blame themselves for the breakdown of their parent’s relationship.
With an effective coparenting relationship, it is perfectly possible for children to thrive post-divorce. Nonetheless, it is important to look out for some signs that they are struggling with the divorce initially. Here are a few things to consider.
Behavioral changes at home
Children can develop at rapid rates. A child may go from being quiet to being the loudest person in the room within a matter of months. A teenager may develop a habit of having tantrums very suddenly. Nonetheless, it is important to keep an eye on significant changes that occur at home immediately after the divorce. For example;
- Has your child started eating more or less than usual?
- Have they started cursing at their siblings all of a sudden?
- Are they shutting themselves in their room constantly?
- Are they struggling to wake up for the school day?
Behavioral changes are natural in children, but proportion is everything. Disproportionate behavioral changes at home post-divorce could be a sign that they are struggling.
Behavioral changes at school
Few children spend all of their time at home. At the very least, most children attend school throughout the week. This means that you won’t be around to directly keep an eye on them. You can, however, communicate with the school. Schools are generally well-prepared to deal with all types of familial circumstances. Regular contact with your child’s teacher can help you to identify if your child is struggling. For example, their grades may have dropped or they may be getting into trouble more than usual.
With an effective custody schedule and proactive steps, your child will learn to cope with the divorce and thrive afterward. Seek legal guidance when creating or trying to modify your custody arrangement.